Posted on May 24, 2017

The Friends of the Family emergency shelter has been up and running since 1980, and last year provided 7,801 days of shelter to victims of sexual and domestic violence. The shelter houses 32 women and children at a time and is at capacity 11 months out of the year. We see women and children come through our doors from all walks of life, each one having their own unique story that brought them there.  

With a house full of kids at the shelter there is never a dull moment! Summer is our busiest time of year by far. Many times we see that mothers will wait until summer to leave their abuser to prevent their kids from being uprooted during the school year. We recognize that living in a home full of 30+ people can be stressful for the family so working to have some fun along the way is where our shelter staff rocks!  

Our new Shelter Director, Stephanie Aguilar, and her team had a fun idea to kick off the summer fun at shelter with The Schools Out Camp Out

Our camp out event will be June 1st at our shelter, we will play fun games, have yummy snacks, of course make s'mores, and moms and kids will camp out to celebrate the start of summer! We are still looking for donations and volunteers for the event.  

You can help make it even "s'more" fun. Here's how:  

  1. Help Us Gather The Supplies- Check out the Amazon Smile Wishlist   (drop off any supplies to the Outreach Office- grab the address here)

  2. Volunteer At The Shelter for The Schools Out Camp Out- RSVP to volunteer here  (login to your volunteer portal and select the children's program volunteer opportunity)

Thank you for helping us kick off the summer with this fun event!  

P.S. You must be an active volunteer to help at shelter, but if you are not you can always help us gather supplies or share any other fun game ideas! 

Shelter Volunteer Requirements:  

Volunteers must already have completed the application process and received back their Child Abuse Registry Check results from the State to volunteer at Schools Out Camp Out. It can take up to 6 weeks to get the results back from the State government for the Child Abuse Registry.  

If you want to get started with your volunteer application for future opportunities go HERE

Not sure of your volunteer status? Request an update HERE

Need help?  

24-Hour crisis line: 940-382-7273 or 800-572-4031 

Outreach Office: 940-387-5131 

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Posted on May 17, 2017

1 in 4 women in our community will be victims of domestic violence in their lives, and their freedom will be taken away. They will be held like prisoners in their own homes, while their abuser exerts control over their work schedule, their bank account, cuts them off from friends and family, while inflicting physical and emotional pain. Reaching these victims can be hard because their abuser has kept them so isolated. #FaithForFreedom is a campaign that we started last year in partnership with faith congregations all across Denton County with three goals: 

  1. To raise awareness of domestic violence in congregations across the county, and make our services known to any potential victims  

  2. To raise funds for the clients that we serve through special offerings in those congregations 

  3. To build a relationship of trust between the faith communities and our agency in order to know how to connect clients with a congregation of their faith and access to community resources  

Faith for Freedom Impact: 

Our “Faithful Friends” will be hosting special offerings to support the courageous women that have reached out for help. Using materials provided by DCFOF, our partner congregations will spread the word about the prevalence of domestic violence and give lifesaving information to any potential victims in the congregation. The funds raised through special offerings in those congregations will support the services provided to victims for free at DCFOF (such as emergency shelter, counseling, legal advocacy, play therapy, a food pantry, and a career resource center). Your partnership in #FaithForFreedom provides the gift of safety, hope, healing, justice and prevention in the fight for freedom that our clients endure every day. 

How it works: 

  1. Attend the Faith for Freedom Kick-Off Social! RSVP HERE and JOIN THE FACEBOOK EVENT. At the social we will discuss the campaign in detail and give you all the materials you need to be a part of the campaign. Bring your questions!  

  1. Sign your congregation up for the #FaithForFreedom campaign through the DCFOF website

  2. Spread the word about domestic violence during selected worship services (using materials provided by DCFOF) 

  3. Host special offerings to benefit victims served by Friends of the Family  

  4. Follow the campaign by liking our Facebook page

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Posted on May 12, 2017

 

We will come in contact with many people throughout our lives, but few will be as special and as important as our mothers. From our first breath mom was there to guide us through life with love and care. The mothers that we serve have gone to extreme lengths to protect their children and make them feel safe, even when their own safety is at risk. Thank you for your ongoing support.  

Make a donation in honor of Mother's Day by clicking the link below! You can make the donation in honor of a mother in your life and download a cute card to give her this Sunday!

Support Our Moms

In honor of Mother's Day a few of the staff shared some of their favorite Mother's Day quotes, check it out:  

"There is no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one"  

"That which does not kill you makes you stronger." 

“It takes a village to raise a child” 

"If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?" 

"When you ask me what I want for Mother's Day, I say "nothing". Because you've already been giving me my gift all year. I want you." 

"A mother understands what a child does not say." 

In honor of Mother's Day, please consider supporting the mothers that we serve. They have been put in unimaginable situations, and are working hard to create a wonderful and safe life for themselves and their children. Don't forget that you can make your donation in honor of a fabulous mother in your life, and download a card to give her this Sunday! 

Support Our Moms

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Posted on May 10, 2017

The Friends of the Badge Luncheon was an event to honor and thank local law enforcement, justice officials, and the District Attorney's office for everything that they do on a daily basis to protect and serve victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. 

Taking place on National Superhero Day, the luncheon was packed with the truest superheroes there are: the men and women who spend every day making our world a safer place. From local police department chiefs, to prosecutors at the District Attorney's office, to judges presiding over local district courts, the turnout was a spectacular array of people who have changed our clients' lives forever. 

One of those clients is Rachelle Pinkerton, a survivor of domestic violence and former client of Denton County Friends of the Family.  

"One police officer made a difference in my story", says Rachelle. "On the night of his [her ex-husband's] last vicious assault, the time that Officer Stevenson took to help me impacted my entire life...I was trying everything I could to get safe and keep my daughter safe and I didn't know how to do that. I was terrified of calling the police because I didn't know what kind of retribution would be waiting for me at home if there was no cause to arrest him. I felt paralyzed. When Officer Stevenson arrived that night she wasn't being mechanical. She took the time to help me understand what my options were, and made me feel like I had someone in my corner for the first time." 

Dale Hansen, weeknight sports anchor of WFAA-TV and host of Dale Hansen's Sports Special on Sundays at 10:20 pm served as the keynote speaker at the luncheon. Once named TV Personality of the Year, Dale earned that title twice over at the Friends of the Badge Luncheon, keeping our guests laughing and enjoying themselves. Dale has a way of story-telling that gets any crowd inspired, especially as he recounted his own experience with domestic violence as a child. 

When he was a young boy his father punched his mother and broke her nose. His father was a very large and strong man that he had looked up to, and that inspired admiration in a lot of other people. Dale said, during his keynote at Friends of the Badge, that this experience changed the way he looked at his father forever. "Never has such a strong, big man looked so small in the eyes of a young boy".  

There were no domestic violence shelters when Dale was a child, and domestic violence was not something that was discussed in public. A bright light has shined on the issue of domestic violence and sexual assault since then. Batterers are being held accountable more and more, and victims have access to more resources than ever before. That is all because of the collaboration between agencies like Friends of the Family and local law enforcement! 

At Friends of the Family we see stories like Rachelle's and Dale's every day. The collaboration between law enforcement, the justice system, and our agency is absolutely crucial for our clients. We were honored to be able to present awards to the awesome people below! 

  •  Super Partner- Little Elm Police Department 
  •  Superhero Advocate - Charley Smith 
  •  Heroic Partner - ADA Caitlin Milmo 
  •  Infinity and Beyond – Family Services Division, Denton Police Department 
  •  Community Crusader- Commissioner Bobbie Mitchell 
  •  Mental Health Partner- Sergeant Cari Coker, Denton County Sheriff's Office 
  •  Community Defender- City of Corinth Police Department 
  •  Avenger of Safety- Sergeant Ramona Rosborough, UNT Police Department 
  •  Guardian of Justice- The Honorable Jonathan Bailey, 431st District Court 

A word from our Congressman about the Friends of the Badge luncheon:

Thank you from Friends of the Family!

Thank you to our sponsors! 

Julian, Crowder, & Shuster 

Congressman Michael Burgess, MD 

Village Designs and Remodeling 

Texas Health Behavioral Hospital 

Larry and Ann Tubbs 

Image Center 

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https://app.e2ma.net/app2/audience/signup/1845455/1790428/  

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Posted on May 4, 2017
The Battering Intervention and Prevention Program (BIPP) at Denton County Friends of the Family is one of the best, and not purposefully kept, secrets of our agency.  The majority of clients served at DCFOF are victims and children, but BIPP clients are those who’ve chosen to use violence (be that physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual) to hurt their partners.  What we know is: abuse is a choice, 100% of the time. Each choice we make is a unique decision and at any point we are completely capable of making better ones. 
 
We have BIPP groups available to both men and women in our community who need help learning to make better decisions about how to treat their families, specifically intimate partners. About 98% of clients in our BIPP are court-ordered to be here as part of their probation or parole. During the 30 week psycho-educational program, perpetrators of domestic violence discuss topics nine topics: accountability, respect, sexual respect, parenting, communication, trust, non-violence, partnership, and non-threatening behavior. 
 
"I have had so many clients over the years who thought abusive behavior was normal," says Hillarye Hightower, Director of BIPP and Community Education. “They've shared that their fathers or uncles were abusive, their friends' fathers, and so many other men in their lives set that example for them.  We know domestic violence is a learned behavior.  There are times when it can feel difficult to work with those who choose to use violence, but I believe in the power of change, and education is what really changes the future for our community." 
 
Many folks who choose abusive behavior believe that they need anger management treatment instead of BIPP. Although anger management is a great tool for some people, it is not the tool most helpful for abusers. Statistics tell us that battering/abuse are not about anger but instead are about one person believing it is their right to maintain power and control over an intimate partner (or former intimate partner).  If a person does not abuse their coworkers, parents, or strangers, but does hurt their partner, that does not lend itself toward an anger management problem but a domestic violence problem.  If someone does not say/do violent or abusive things to other people, but does them to a partner, then they ARE capable of controlling their anger, and are CHOOSING not to when it comes to their partner. It is very important to take responsibility for those choices and work to change them. 
 
Every day is a new opportunity to improve oneself and one's relationship. No matter what has happened in the past, people are capable of change. 
 
Do you hurt your partner, or does someone you know hurt their partner?  Would you like help changing that behavior? Call 940-387-5131 and ask to sign up for or for more information about our BIPP program. 
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Posted on April 20, 2017

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and at Denton County Friends of the Family we are working to raise awareness. Events are happening across the county, many of which are hosted by or partnered with Friends of the Family, and our Facebook has been bombarded with shades of teal. #GoTeal  

Sexual assault is defined as any forced, coerced, or unwanted sexual act. Sexual assault can include, but is not limited to, rape, sexual threats and intimidation, incest, sexual assault by intimate partners, child sexual abuse, human sexual trafficking, sexual harassment, street harassment and other forms of unwelcome, coerced or non-consensual activity.  

The secret that many do not know about sexual assault is that it is not really about sex at all. It is a crime of power and control, and taking that power away from another person. It is about the feeling of power and superiority a rapist gets when they hold another person's life and safety in their hands.  Sex is not the motive; it is the weapon that a rapist uses to get the power and control that they are looking for.  

This is why it is so important to know that sexual assault is NEVER caused by alcohol or the way a person is dressed. Most importantly, sexual assault is NEVER the victim's fault. All adults have the right to consent or not consent to any person or sexual activity at any time, for any reason. You always have the right to consent or not consent regardless of your relationship status with that person, or if you have consented to sexual activity with them before.  

Denton County Friends of the Family was created to give resources to people who have been through traumas such as sexual assault. With 2 in 5 women in Texas experiencing sexual assault in their lifetime, we know that there will always continue to be more women that need our help. We provide victims/survivors with counseling, play therapy (if under 12), a safety plan, emergency shelter, legal advocacy, a 24 hour crisis line, a career resource center, and a food pantry. In addition, we will continue to shine light on this issue in the hopes that we will one day live in a society where sexual assault is not as prevalent as 2 in 5.  

  

Resources Available:  

Check out our programs here.  

Schedule an intake appointment at our outreach office by calling 940-387-5131.  

Want to talk? Call our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 1-800-572-4031 or 940-382-7273  

 

Click here for more information about sexual assault.  

  

I want to support victims/survivors of sexual assault by making a donation.  

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Posted on April 5, 2017

Check out the update below from our Shelter team! 

Car dealership Classic of Denton has generously donated a brand new 2017 van to the Denton County Friends of the Family shelter. The luxury 15 passenger van is valued at $75K, and after the CoServe Charitable Foundation made the generous contribution of $15K, Classic of Denton donated the remaining $60K to Friends of the Family.

The van is being used for grocery shopping, dropping child residents off at school, giving clients rides to the courthouse, and much more. Unlike other company vehicles, this van does not have any kind of logo identifying it as a Denton County Friends of the Family vehicle with the intention of client safety and confidentiality.

Friends of the Family Shelter Van Making an Impact in 2017"To understand the direct need of this van, you first need to understand the dangers that our clients face," says Rebekah Woodland, Assistant Director of Residential Services. "Many of them have recently left an abusive partner, who may still be looking for them. Many of them have previously been stalked by their abusers, and sometimes have even had their cars tracked with GPS. Our ability to get their children to and from school, provide them with groceries and other basic needs, and even get them to a court appointment safely is crucial to their ability to survive on their own. Thanks to Classic of Denton and the CoServe Charitable Foundation, this new van has enabled us give them the resources to thrive again!"

"Safety and support are common luxuries that many of us are lucky enough to take for granted," says Randi Skinner, Friends of the Family Director of Marketing and Development. "Driving ourselves to an appointment without having to look over our shoulders is normal to us, but our clients have to be constantly on the lookout for their abuser. Classic of Denton has not just given our shelter a van, they have given shelter clients the freedom to take care of themselves without having to worry. That gift is priceless for them, and we are eternally grateful to Classic of Denton and the CoServe Charitable Foundation for giving that gift to our clients!"

For more information about Denton County Friends of the Family visit: www.dcfof.org

For more information about Classic of Denton visit: www.classicofdenton.com

For more information about the CoServe Charitable Foundation visit: www.coserv.com/Community/CoServ-Charitable-Foundation

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Posted on August 14, 2015

Denton County Friends of The Family Programs & Activities Spring 2017 

Creating a Community Free of Violence:  The Community Education department is available to present the following programs, trainings, activities, and workshops to your school, organization, or agency for FREE!! 

Pre K-5th Grade 
Bumbles * W.H.O. * Be the Change * 5S Program 

Middle School 
Real Kids Getting Real * 5S Program 
Coaching Boys into Men (athletic specific) 

High School 
Expect Respect * In Their Shoes * Hip Hop: Beyond Beats and Rhymes 
Killing Us Softly * Tough Guise * The Dating Game 
The Clothesline Project * Coaching Boys into Men (athletic specific) 

College/Adult/Community 
Relationship Violence/Sexual Assault 101 * Hip Hop: Beyond Beats & Rhymes 
Killing Us Softly * Tough Guise * The Dating Game * The Clothesline Project 
In Their Shoes (Teachers/Counselors) * Health/Community Fairs or Events * 
Coaching Boys into Men (athletic specific) 

Our grant funders require 30 students or less per presentation. 

PROGRAM DESCRIPTIONS: 

Bumbles (30-45 minutes): Bumbles the Magic Bumblebee teaches children about the following topics: their bodies are special and belong to them, safe and unsafe touches, identifying safe adults; as well as secrets. Bumbles also uses an interactive song to recapture all the different topics discussed. 

WHO (30-45 minutes): Students will learn behaviors and strategies for staying safe at home and in the community. WHO teaches children to know, say, and use certain skills to avoid and reduce dangerous and/or hurtful situations such as bullying, child and/or sexual abuse. 

Be the Change (45 minutes): Be the Change is designed to give students the tools to create positive changes in their own lives. We seek to empower students through healthy boundary setting, communication, and beginning to understand socialization. 

Real Kids Getting Real (3 part series): This series teaches middle school students to recognize how society impacts our relationships and the definition of relationship violence, while at the same time providing curriculum-based, age-appropriate activities and information that encourage students to form healthy relationships, respecting themselves and others. 

5S Program (1 to 3 part series): This program focuses on teaching students and parents about: planning and decision making, choices and consequences, resistance skills, peer pressure, self-esteem, goal setting, peaceful conflict resolution, communication, boundaries and respect. 

Expect Respect (3 part series): Expect Respect is a program for preventing teen dating violence and promoting safe and healthy relationships in high school. It consists of three parts: socialization, relationship violence, and communication/boundaries. 

In Their Shoes (1– 1.5 hour): A scenario-based training designed to help participants learn what dating is like for today’s teen - from their perspective. This is intended for adults who interact with teens as well as teens themselves. It provides a snapshot of unhealthy teen relationships and generates a thoughtful discussion about how adults and teens may better understand teen dating violence. 

Hip Hop - Beyond Beats and Rhymes (2 hour): The documentary based program explores the issues of masculinity, violence, hip hop music, gender stereotypes, and culture through interviews with artists, academics, and fans. 

Killing Us Softly (1-1.5 hour): The documentary based program provides a critical analysis of the advertising industry’s effect on the image of women and femininity, and the unrealistic portrayals of beauty, perfection and sexuality it presents to young women and girls. 

Tough Guise (2 hour): The documentary based program examines the relationship between media and the idea of masculinity, violence, and what it means for young boys. 

The Dating Game (1-1.5 hour): The dating game activity points out to youth that we are influenced by a variety of messages regarding personal interactions, and we bring those attitudes and behaviors into our relationships. 

Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault 101 (2 to 4 hour): This program examines and discusses a wide variety of information relating to relationship violence & sexual assault. Educating the community on the following subjects: types of abuse, facts/figures, what the law says, myths/facts, red flags/warning signs, effects of relationship violence/sexual assault, and more. 

The Clothesline Project: The Clothesline Project (CLP) is a program started to address the issue of violence against girls/women. It is a vehicle for girls/women affected by violence to express their emotions by decorating a shirt. They then hang the shirt on a clothesline to be viewed by others as testimony to the problem of violence against girls/women. This program can be geared toward both girls and boys. 

Contacting the Community Education Department:  Hillarye Hightower, Director of Community Education, (940) 387-5131 x240 or hillarye@dcfof.org.  Schedules fill up quickly, please contact us to book 3-6 months in advance.

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Posted on July 21, 2015

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Posted on June 22, 2015

According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men will be victims of intimate partner violence at some point in their lives[i]. On average, more than 3 women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day[ii]. 20-25% of women in college reported experiencing an attempted or completed rape[iii]. Only 2% of rapists will ever spend a day in prison[iv]. These statistics clearly illustrate the severity and prevalence of domestic violence and sexual assault in our society, and yet the violence rages on. A major factor in their unimpeded continuation is that we, as a culture, consider speaking out about domestic violence and sexual assault uncomfortable and taboo. At Denton County Friends of the Family (DCFOF), we believe that the first step in seeing a decrease in these crimes is to shine light on them in the public eye, and the best way to do that is by talking about them.

            The DCFOF Speaker’s Bureau is a group of volunteers committed to bringing attention to the issues of domestic violence and sexual assault, as well as the services that DCFOF offers to survivors and their families. Volunteers speak to community members at tabling events, as well as other community groups, and receive community service hours and/or internship experience. They have come together to make a commitment to speaking up about domestic violence and sexual assault and to urge others to do the same.

A shining example of a Speaker’s Bureau volunteer is Alecia Martinez, who kindly gave us permission to share her story. In an email interview, Alecia told us that she was “born and raised in Shreveport, Louisiana.  I was the oldest of six children, raised in a very poor environment by abusive, addict parents.  In order to escape my dysfunctional home life, I married at 15 and had two sons.  I stayed married to their father for 19 years.”  After years of owning a salon and raising her children, Alecia has since joined the United States Navy, completed her Bachelors in Liberal Arts, and completed her MBA in 2011.

 She has spent the last 7 years working for Fannie Mae, and it is through her a volunteer work event that Alecia came in contact with the DCFOF Speaker’s Bureau: “I had been looking for a worthy cause for which to volunteer for quite a while, [and] because I live in Denton County I felt DCFOF was a good fit.  The fact that it was for the cause of domestic violence and sexual assault made it perfect for me, because I am passionate about the cause as I have been a victim.  I have been the child raised in an environment where little [girls are] molested and women and children [are] neglected and/or physically abused as a way of life.  I have been the woman in an abusive relationship, yet I stayed because had no one to help and nowhere else to go.  I have been fortunate enough to escape the cycle of abuse.  I have sincere empathy for the victims, and I know firsthand that there is hope.”

For many survivors, knowing that they have options and that their fellow community members care about what they have been through can be very comforting. At a tabling event at TWU, Alecia was “touched by the number of college students interested in the cause and volunteering.  I doubt there are many people whose lives have not been touched in some way by domestic violence and sexual assault.” In addition to volunteering her skills with Speaker’s Bureau, Alecia has also worked at the DCFOF shelter and headed up a clothing drive for women transitioning back into the workplace.  She said that she is planning to tutor clients of DCFOF who are studying for GED testing, and believes education is of great importance. She feels “like people are more likely to stay in an abusive environment if they believe they have no alternatives.  It is our responsibility as a community and as fellow humans to do what we can to initiate change.”

Most who consider volunteering for a cause like this imagine themselves working in a shelter, as a hospital accompaniment advocate, or perhaps in our thrift store. When Alecia was asked why she chose Speaker’s Bureau above those things, she said that “I feel I have overcome much adversity because people informed me that I had choices and that I could change my life.  I want to be that person for someone else.  If I can point them in the right direction to get the help they need at DCFOF I will consider it a great honor… Some people believe in Karma, some say you reap what you sow; others say what goes around comes around.  I believe we get back from the universe what we give.  That’s why I want to invest in the betterment of humanity.  I feel there is no worthier cause than to invest in victims of sexual assault or domestic violence.  I chose the Speakers Bureau specifically because I am grateful that I have a very different life now. I want mine to be one of the voices helping to empower people to change their lives for the better.  I want my voice to be one of hope and inspiration.”

To join DCFOF Speaker’s Bureau, email KShields@dcfof.org

For volunteering information in DCFOF shelter or thrift store, email volunteerhere@dcfof.org

To make a donation, visit https://www.dcfof.org/html/donate.php

           

 

[i] (Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

[ii] Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003.

[iii] Fisher BS, Cullen FT, Turner MG. 2000. The sexual victimization of college women. Washington: Department of Justice (US), National Institute of Justice; Publication No. NCJ 182369.

[iv] Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN)

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Posted on February 28, 2014

Denton County is now incredibly fortunate to have AmeriCorps VISTAs serving to support our community, thanks to Denton RSVP.

AmeriCorps VISTA  is a national service program designed to fight poverty in America. Each VISTA commits to serve on a specific project with a nonprofit organization or public agency.

Denton Country Friends of the Family (DCFOF) is tremendously thrilled to say that we have two of those VISTAs and expect to receive another in late April. We are pleased to welcome Sarah and Trish!

Sarah will be serving as the Community Outreach Liaison.  She feels very inspired to work with us because she believes that our staff and clients are all very courageous individuals who stand up and do something about how our society views and reacts to domestic violence and sexual assault. Sarah will assist in DCFOF's social media projects, our Community Education Department, and with resource development. She is very enthusiastic to get out in the community to help spread awareness and hopefully provide some eye-opening education opportunities.

Trish will be serving as DCFOF's Organizational Analysis and Implementation Coordinator! She is excited to work with a local organization which addresses a serious issue like domestic violence and sexual assault, knowing that these can affect anyone in our community. Trish will be helping to create a more efficient operating system for the staff here at DCFOF, so that we are able to dedicate more time to helping our clients and the community, and less time working on paperwork.

We are more than happy to have them on board - joining us in moving families from crisis to confidence!

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Posted on June 14, 2013

With Father's day fast approaching, we at Denton County Friends of the Family would like to take a moment to talk about dads, and particularly, the impact they can have on the children and loved ones in our lives.

In the state of Texas, 47% of all people will personally experience some form of domestic violence or abuse in their lifetime,1  and child abuse is 15 times more likely to occur in those homes where domestic violence is present2. Statistically, fathers are the most likely culprits of physical violence in families. Becoming a father is easy, in part, it's transforming their hardships into wisdom, not abuse, that makes men dads.

Violence blocks one's ability to be a positive figure in a child's life. Dads who are nurturing, on the other hand, can contribute to children's healthy development in a variety of ways. It's not enough to be non-violent. Fathers who are positive role models impart good values and social skills in children, as they grow into well-adjusted and healthy adults.

So, this Father's Day, please join Friends of the Family in celebrating the wonderful dads in our community. They choose to be good dads, and sometimes go without thanks for the role they play in our lives. Whether they're biological dads or stepdads, married dads, or partners; foster dads, guardians, uncles, regardless of their background, there is no doubt there is something special about the influence, love, and lessons these dads can bring into our lives.

To learn more about fathers, families, and the impact of domestic violence, visit: www.tcfv.org

1 Texas Council on Family Violence. (2012).

2 Yello Dino (2007). Family Violence Statistics.

Copyright © 2013 Caitlyn Cawley

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Posted on February 20, 2011

Dear Friends and Supporters,

In an effort to keep our community informed, please see below for details regarding the immediate needs at Friends of the Family.

As always, we appreciate your continued support of those affected by relationship violence and sexual assault.

FRIENDS OF THE FAMILY ISSUES VALENTINE’S DAY PLEA FOR 50 BUSINESSES, INDIVIDUALS, GROUPS, ORGANIZATIONS TO STAND AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND SEXUAL ASSAULT

Denton County Friends of the Family Needs Your Help.

This community organization must meet an immediate fundraising goal of $100,000.

DENTON, TEXAS-- February 9, 2011- The Board of Directors of Denton County Friends of the Family has issued an imperative request for your help. For 30 years DCFOF has faithfully and zealously served some of the most desperate and destitute people of our community, providing emergency shelter, counseling, food, clothing, legal services and advocacy to assist families in healing from the terror of family violence and sexual assault. As the sole source in Denton County for families affected by violence and sexual assault, denying services has never been an option. For the first time when faced with a growing community, ever increasing demand for services, increased operating requirements over the past 3 years and diminished funds from local and governmental agencies DCFOF will have to decrease services. According to Board Chair, Ann Tubbs, “While the Board of Directors has been faithful in their fiduciary oversight there comes a time when, simply stated, we NEED more. There are long term plans to decrease overhead operations and expand fundraisers, but there is an immediate need to raise $100,000 in the next 30 days.”

According to Executive Director, Toni Johnson-Simpson, “I know this organization has impacted thousands of lives in the past 30 years and I know we will continue to do so.What better way to celebrate the love of Valentine’s Day than to assist those in our community whose lives have been so negatively impacted by a relationship in which love promised and loved hoped for has taken such a terrible turn. It’s a measurable goal of 50 families, individuals, businesses, churches or organizations to donate $2000 each to reach this immediate goal of $100,000.”

In 2010 DCFOF served 10,605 clients with everything from emergency shelter and counseling to rental assistance and food as families’ transition from crisis to self sufficiency. “I think one of the most unfortunate issues we deal with as an organization is that people do not realize the variety of services we provide families in their quest to achieve self sufficiency and safety. In addition, people never understand the true plight of violence until someone they know is affected by violence or sexual assault.” Johnson-Simpson said. This is evidenced as the mother of one of our adult clients said in a recent phone call, “When I held her as a child and watched her achieve all of those milestones in life, including college graduation and a beautiful wedding day, I never in my wildest imagination thought a domestic violence organization would be in her future.”

The immediacy of achieving this goal makes it possible for those services to be available when someone you love or care about may be in need. How do we reach the goal? There are several ways, for example if: 50 give $2,000, 100 give $1,000, 500 give $200 or 1,000 give $100 to Friends of the Family for Valentine’s Day, we can meet this goal. Of course contributions of any size towards this goal are greatly appreciated.

Contributions can be made at www.dcfof.org or P.O. Box 640, Denton, TX 76202-0640 or contact Carol Gaige at Carol@dcfof.org.

Thank you for your consideration.

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Posted on January 27, 2011

Denton County Friends of the Family is in the process of moving our Denton Outreach location. Different departments are moving at different times. It is chaos and excitement all wrapped into one!!!! Check back for updates as we post them!!!!

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Posted on November 9, 2010

There is a lot going on at Denton County Friends of the Family right now.

#1 – Coming out of October, which is Relationship Violence Awareness Month, is always interesting. It seems there is something going on at least weekly during the whole month. We had The Haunting of Relationship Violence at Denton Triangle Mall on October 21st. We had a great turnout – thanks to all who helped and attended!

#2 – WE ARE MOVING!!!!! As one could imagine, for an office our size, that entails much planning, organizing, and fundraising. We just had some really neat events with the proceeds going toward our Capital Campaign – the Wine Squared event was last Thursday evening, November 8th, on the Denton Square, and there was a Charity Bridge Game and Luncheon on Saturday the 6th at Denton Bridge Studios. Independent Scentsy Consultant, Robin Clouse, has offered to donate 100% of her proceeds for the month of November to Denton County Friends of the Family. (Her website is www.robinclouse.scentsy.us and click on DCFOF Party in the Open Parties box, if you’re interested). A UNT first year leadership class held a fundraiser – Be a Friend to the Family – on our behalf at Christian Community Center on the 8th. There were bands, acts, and free baked goods and coffee. They did an awesome job and were so motivated to help us!!

#3 – It is the time of year again when all the stores get ahead of themselves and start putting out winter holiday decorations before fall even truly hits. With that being said, we are joining right in with them – our Adopt-a-Family donation drive is already in full swing!! Each year we invite community members to adopt clients in need of help providing food, clothes, or gifts to their loved ones for the holidays. If you’re interested, don’t hesitate to contact us.

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